2021.10.20 12:34 MaMaMatthias My best friend forces me to move out into an apartment with him but I don't want to
For the last year my best friend (M/27) wants to persuade me (M/24) to search for a new apartment and move in with him together. We both are still living with our parents and are studying at the moment and both have part-time jobs. The problem is that I don't want to move out of my parents place as this would put even more financial stress on me because of university and I have a great relationship with my parents and their house is big enough that we don't really clash into each other. In addition to that, they are always telling me that I can stay until I have my degrees.
The problem with my friend is, that he is a very emotional guy and sometimes calls me, telling me that he wants to end it all and that he was thinking about killing himself and that he has no clue on how to continue on with life. In the last 2 years I tried everything to help him to find what he likes and helped him to apply for jobs, but he never does that, but instead is telling me that we both need to move out to progress in life. The thing is that I am very happy how my life is going as I have a plan in mind on what I want to ro later on. He has also been quite depressed about not finding a girlfriend, whereas I am in a very loving relationship. Which leads to another problem, because everytime I only briefly mention her, he gets kind of pissed and aggressive and tells me how good my life is and that everything is a piece of cake for me, which it isn't.
He is currently going to therapy, but there he is only talking about how bad he feels about not having a girlfriend and doesn't really talk about the real problem, which in my opinion is that he might suffer from depression and shouldn't depend on other people.
I feel like all his hopes on a better life lie on me living with him. When I talk to him about moving out alone, he gets very aggressive and kind of tells me that I don't want to support him and that I need this change as well and that moving out alone is no option because it is stupid.
On Thursday we will have a talk again about this topic and he will tell me again that we need to move out together, but I don't know how to finally tell him that this will not happen. The thing is i am always there for him and try to push him to become a better version of himself, but I just don't feel like doing this 24/7 by living with him.
I definitely want to support him, but I need to look after myself as well as I have a lot of problems that I need to deal with myself...
TL;DR: best friend who might suffer from depression forces me to move out with him and to help him progress in life, but I don't want to become his carer 24/7...
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2021.10.20 12:34 AyrnLipari Any advice on how to deal with my protagonist's first kill?
He's caught up in a web of "chosen one" prophecies and is fighting an army that will stop at nothing to kill him. I want to do something along the lines of our morals are what separate us from the villain's but at the same time I don't want to do the whole thing with "oh we don't need to kill them. we can just incapacitate them." not only is it overused and too soft for this book but the entire point of this particular fight when is that the invaders are supposed to be fodder for strategical analysis of the heroes. their capture gives away the location of a spy. I can't remove the fight scene because it's in the center of a dry middle. This isn't a children's book and Ayrn is not Aang. He will have to kill eventually, but how is this sophomore supposed to deal with his actions? I've attached my initial solution but it feels weak
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2021.10.20 12:34 Aimwles MCC 18 Games!
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2021.10.20 12:34 No-Percentage6296 urinprov i december pga utredning, hjälp..
är för det mesta daglig rökare som nyss fick reda på att min adhd utredning som jag trodde skulle bli längre fram kommer bli i december.. pissprov då alltså. behöver verkligen hjälp nu. kan inte jag röka en ända gång tills efter det? röker oftast varje dag, inga extremt stora mängder men läste att på urinprov kan den mäta så långt bak som nio veckor? hur gör jag nu för att inte torska? blir det bara ingen rökning tills december eller kan jag smyga i mig lite då och då? kan det ja redan rökt synas? vet ju inte när i december ens... har hört att ifall man säger att man verkligen inte får ut nått piss så kan dom erbjuda blodprov vilket bara syns i upp till en vecka, men tänk om man skulle sitta där positiv och dom nekar blodprov liksom.
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2021.10.20 12:34 neededathrowawaytoda Heat Won’t Shut Off
I have an old, oil heat, hot water, two zone boiler. I turned on the heat this weekend and zone one, first floor is working fine. Zone two, second floor the heat will not shut off. I have: changed the batteries in the thermostat, turned thermostat on, tried changing the temperature multiple times , switched out the thermostat with a spare, switched off the boiler for 20 minutes and then switched back on, checked the wires leading into the controller at the boiler. It keeps calling for heat even when the thermostat is disconnected. The controller light for zone two is on and the circulation valve remains open.
The thermostat only controls the heat for the second floor and separate thermostat for AC is off. The second floor thermostat is only two wires and hasn’t been touched other than to change batteries since spring.
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Does anyone know if there’s a menu key on the MX keys mini? I don’t see any but thought that there may be a keyboard shortcut that’s a little more convenient than having to go with ctrl shift F10.
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2021.10.20 12:34 2021-Man How do we know that Phoenicians were not in fact various unrelated ethnic groups, rather than one?
Unlike the many Greek city-states, who we know shared a sense of 'Greekness', we have no records of what they called or thought about themselves. 'Phoenician' of course a Greek exonym.
Is it not possible that the people of Tyre, Sidon and Byblos simply thought of themselves as completely different ethnic groups?
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Hey! My name is Rolando and I'm from Mexico and I have 19 years old.
I would like to practice my speaking skills and make new friends :) I prefer to use WhatsApp, because it's the only social media that I use haha.
I'm actually fluent at English and French, but I don't have any friends who speak with. I'm learning German (B1) and I'm preparing for the Goethe test.
I'm also learning Swedish (A1), so if you want please DM me :)
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